Boy Girl Mom & Dad

43 | How to Be a Cool Mom w/ Haven Weits

Our first episode in the Dear Mama series is with Haven Weits of the Haven! Podcast. Enjoy our candid conversation on how everyone can be a cool mom. Haven takes us on a journey with her free range / lighthouse parent parenting style. This episode serves as a great reminder and resource for all parents and caregivers, especially helicopters!
 
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Haven! The Podcast Website: https://www.havenpod.com/
Haven! The Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haventhepodcast
Haven! The Podcast Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@haventhepodcast
Haven! The Podcast Email: Hello@Havenpod.com
Pete’s Dragon (1977) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0076538/
Circle of Security: https://www.instagram.com/circleofsecurity/
Yes Day Book: https://amzn.to/44n5D0o
Yes Day Film on Netflix starring Jennifer Garner, Jenna Ortega 
Haven! The Podcast: Gentle Parenting-ish: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2xC7QWZoXh9EuQdWTgJ08S
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Haven! The Podcast: The Mentor Mentee Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ed2BS9N1j4mEm92zAjJPk
Dr. Becky Kennedy's Book Good Inside: https://amzn.to/3omB4Yf
Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish: https://amzn.to/3pMqRoS
Tips and Etiquette for Visiting Families with a New Baby Part 1 Episode 23: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3DIhpu3meVj2cRbImYhFe0
Tips and Etiquette for Visiting Families with a New Baby Part 2 Episode 24: https://open.spotify.com/episode/06QnTxhozCPTocP5dE7ZFHf
Super Kitties: https://disneynow.com/shows/superkitties
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Haven the Podcast! Why are you People Pleasing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0OwnRvLDSFWswEsVjovV5n
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey: https://amzn.to/3XMRkPX
Sissy Goff and David Thomas Library
Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: https://bit.ly/3QCdUZl
The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff LPC-MHSP: https://amzn.to/47AGdx4
Raising Worry Free Girls by Sissy Goff MEd, LPC-MHSP : https://amzn.to/3q5BG5M 
Radical Candor by Kim Scott: https://bit.ly/3yavKw8
Thoughts on the word perfect:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4AM8gGZ2WTxw9i7APxPiQp
 
00:00:24 - Intro
00:02:08 - Tiff - Forks
00:06:55 - Disneyland
00:09:20 - Free Range Parent
00:18:21 - Hardest Part about Being A Lighthouse Parent
00:25:16 - How To Be A Cool Mom
00:27:28 - Yes or No
00:31:36 - It's Not Fear Based
00:34:03 - Managing or Enabling?
00:37:59 - Treating Kids Uniquely
00:42:58 - Siblings Without Rivalry
00:49:56 - Commercial - Lunya
00:56:11 - What Do You Hope to Pass To Your Kids?
00:56:58 - Super Kitties Affirmations
00:59:09 - Weits Family Roll Call
01:00:04 - Boundaries Are Love
01:04:14 - Hurt or Injured?
01:11:39 - How Are You Feeling?
01:14:41 - It Takes Two: A Special Book for Twins
01:16:12 - Favorite Free Range Parenting Books
01:16:29 - Haven! The Podcast Book Club
01:22:23 - Favorite Parenting Advice
01:27:10 - How To Contact Haven
01:28:03 - Closing

42 | Just A Quickie

A short and sweet episode discussing the Nick’s solo episode, perfectionism, and the Dear Mama series we are starting this May, in honor of Mother’s Day!
 
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Episode 41: Mom Rage is a Dad Problem: https://open.spotify.com/episode/31hSyy02FuSjSsmLBIJysR
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself by Dr. Morgan Cutlip: https://amzn.to/3LusGyH
Hey Mama Co: https://bit.ly/3Na597m
For The Moms by Katie Dickens: https://www.forthemoms.online/
Episode 4: Mother’s Day and Miscarriage
Episode 10: Do Mom Friends Exist IRL: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ucrXHj0JY1NrEPip3biTo
Episode 25: The Supermom Myth: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2546JxFM48hTMno8QCtRhH
April was Financial Literacy Month:
Bunny Money by Rosemary Wells: https://bit.ly/3UoN5cg
I am Money by Julia Cook and Garrett Gunderson https://bit.ly/44nQ6hx
 
00:00:37 - Intro
00:01:45 - Tiff
00:08:29 - Are We Pursuing Perfection?
00:15:55 - Commercial - Lunya
00:23:49 - Closing

41 | Mom Rage is a Dad Problem

It’s just Nick this week! We’re diving into WHY Mom’s anger can be justified and HOW we as Dad’s / equal partners can step UP to share the beautiful burden of parenting. We’re all in this together, and our kids NEED equal partners. Join me this week as I take over the podcast and talk through how we can be better partners, ALL of us.
 
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Product References
It Takes Two: A Special Book for Twins - https://a.co/d/iU87t0c
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/45B1gPT
Fair Play Deck: https://amzn.to/3P08Mg5
The Productivity Problem Episode 29: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yAHaLrE8uvswPo8S7UB2n?si=767870ca0b9142ea
Episode 21: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mOYwZpsWc5BK4fU86Yv7a
Episode 22: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1nICZEqeKUq5O64CrpmxGR
 
Articles References
Mom Rage is a Dad Problem - https://sarapetersen.substack.com/p/mom-rage-is-a-dad-problem
Why Mom Dismisses Dad’s Help - https://www.moms.com/why-mom-dismisses-dads-help/
Parenting as a Mom vs. Parenting as a Dad - https://www.zawn.net/blog/parenting-as-a-mom-vs-parenting-as-a-dad
Tension with our Kid’s Mom Deeply Affects Our Fathering - https://fathers.com/blog/topics/your-marriage/tension-with-our-kids-mom-deeply-affects-our-fathering/
 
Chapters
00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:53 - Aggressive Podcast Title
00:04:51 - Understanding Mom Rage and Dad Privilege
00:16:08 - Why Moms dismiss Dad's Help
00:31:23 - Commercial - It Takes Two: A Book for Twins
00:33:35 - Parenting Perspectives between Mom & Dad
00:43:32 - Navigating Parenthood Together
00:51:23 - Quotes from the articles

40 | Boy Girl Mom & Dad Podcast 1 Year Anniversary

A relaxed conversation looking back over the last 365 (366?!) days of boy girl mom (and dad.) We chat about our favorite (and least favorite) parts, as well as some other topics we have been meaning to discuss, but haven’t found the time along with what we think success (in a podcast) looks like, imposter syndrome, money, and more. Thank you for being on this journey with us!!
 
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Personal Blog: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/
Episode 39 Hey Toddler Parents, How Y’all Doing? https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VhtO6lm3R1Q01cb6FAfye
Boy Girl Mom & Dad Podcast AFTER DARK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWWCfQE0xbo&ab_channel=BoyGirlMom
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Episode 36: Travel to Europe with Toddlers?! https://open.spotify.com/episode/5aowQukDjXsP1J7DWrEOJ5
Episode 29: The Productivity Problem: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2yAHaLrE8uvswPo8S7UB2n
Episode 25: The Supermom Myth: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2546JxFM48hTMno8QCtRhH
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/45B1gPT
Fair Play Deck: https://amzn.to/3P08Mg5
Episode 21: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mOYwZpsWc5BK4fU86Yv7a
Episode 22: The Weight of Invisible Work Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1nICZEqeKUq5O64CrpmxGR
Why Gender Matters, Second Edition by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3pmBH54
Episode 12: Girl Mom vs Boy Mom Culture: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f0WKo844LNty2I5paR4mq
Episode 16: Boys are from Mars, Girls are from Venus: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TXUeHI0fNm56XKBdZpeVJ
Primally Pure Spa: https://primallypure.com/pages/spa
Trash Truck: https://www.netflix.com/title/80234731
Cabinet Lock Magnet Sets: https://bit.ly/4d2KME3
Adhesive Strap Locks: https://bit.ly/3W0Gabp
Favorite Bottle with a straw for toddlers: BKR Teeny with straw lid and straw: https://bit.ly/4cRw0Qu
Burts Bees Baby Beekeeper Sleep Sack up to size XL: https://bit.ly/3JmoAr1
Episode 25: Potty Training Twins: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4htHGyQSBWKxeusiwgm6LD
One Proud Toddler Potty Seat: https://bit.ly/3JkSCLN
Toothbuds Pediatric Dentist: http://www.toothbuds.com/
Traveling to London with Twin Toddlers: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/blogfeed/travel-guide-london-with-twin-toddlers
Uber with car seats: https://www.uber.com/us/en/ride/car-seat/?city=wichita
Alto Car Service: https://ridealto.com/dallas-fort-worth
Are Actually Moms Coddling Their Sons: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL8wMwnw/
Nurtured First Account: https://www.instagram.com/nurturedfirst/
Don’t make drastic decisions the first year of birth https://www.instagram.com/p/C4Lyg2Fvh0L/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
 
00:00:05 - Intro
00:02:00 - Tiff
00:05:49 - Structured vs. Unstructured Podcasts
00:14:58 - Favorite Episode We Recorded This Year
00:16:12 - What Has Been The Hardest Part Of Podcasting This Last Year
00:21:39 - Is Doing The Podcast Worth It To Lauren?
00:26:26 - BGMAD Dad Hats
00:27:38 - What's Your Favorite Thing You've Learned During This Past Year?
00:32:00 - What Is Your Favorite Moment From The Past Year?
00:39:39 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:41:10 - 'Random' Things On Our Minds
00:41:35 - Screen Time
00:44:15 - Toddler Sleep Issues
00:45:33 - Drawer and Cabinet Protectors
00:47:22 - Dropping Pacifiers
00:49:06 - Transitioning Off Of Bottles
00:50:59 - Transitioning Off Of Sleep Sacks
00:51:39 - When Did We Begin Potty Training?
00:57:03 - Asking 'Are You Going To Have More Kids'?
01:00:00 - Did We Bring Our Car Seats To Europe?
01:05:53 - Are Mom's Coddling Their Sons?
01:07:52 - Nurtured First Social Accounts
01:09:00 - Don't Make Big Decisions After Birth
01:10:10 - It's Ok To Be Late
01:15:43 - Closing

39 | Hey Toddler Parents, How Y'all Doing?

An honest conversation around the joys and challenges of raising a toddler (or two) so you know you’re not alone… unless you want to be! We chat not only about the hardships of these transitions in regard to parenting, but also how it has affected us as partners and husband and wife. Also, can someone tell us the key for getting stains out of clothing? We assume keeping them stain free is not an option. Ah, the joys of childhood!
 
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Boy Girl Mom and Dad uses affiliate links. By clicking on certain hyperlinks and/or buying a product, you may help us make a small commission off your purchase. It's links like this that help keep us going. Thank you for your support!
 
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
Milk Street Baby Branch Crib: https://bit.ly/3LXBttb
Milk Street Baby Toddler Attachment: https://milkstreetbaby.com/collections/toddler-bed-conversion-kits/products/branch-toddler-bed-conversion-kit
Colgate Kids Mattress: https://bit.ly/3MdK7Do
Mushie Fitted Cribsheet: https://bit.ly/3vLVUV6
Hanna Andersson Baby Blanket: https://bit.ly/3VTuZBn
Makemake organics toddler quilt : https://bit.ly/49B7Yq6
Makemake organics toddler pillowcase: https://bit.ly/3JbFRmz
Parachute Home Toddler Pillow: https://bit.ly/3TQayms
Hatch Sound Machine: https://bit.ly/3VUS1Ik
Episode 35: Potty Training Twins: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4htHGyQSBWKxeusiwgm6LD
 
00:01:01 - Intro
00:01:17 - Tiff
00:06:02 - Toddler Parents... Are Y'all Okay?
00:07:01 - Why Did No One Prepare Me For 2s?
00:08:23 - Toddlerhood Questions From The Audience
00:08:36 - Favorite Parts of the Toddler Phase
00:10:37 - We Took A Much Needed Trip
00:14:54 - We Had A Few Fights...
00:21:31 - Self Care Saturday
00:30:30 - Time Is Compressed with Toddlers
00:32:37 - We're Both AT Capacity
00:38:31 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:39:26 - What Would You Tell Your Pre-Toddler Self?
00:41:31 - Get Ready To Submit
00:47:17 - Favorite Parts Of The Toddler Phase
00:49:40 - Least Favorite Parts Of The Toddler Phase
00:54:23 - When Did We Transfer To Toddler Beds?
01:00:52 - Closing

38 | Your Kids and Their Bodies: Body Safety and Body Image Part 2

Part two of a conversation about body knowledge regarding our children in both the mental and physical space. Special guests author Kayla J.W. Marnach and body neutral personal trainer + coach entrepreneur Kami Blease discuss SA prevention, body positivity + neutrality, resisting societal norms like diet culture, food consumption, exercise, and more. Tune in to see how you can retrain your (adult) brain and unlearn body negativity and trauma, so you can try to not only limit your child's exposure to them, but build a foundation that can withstand it. 
 
Use discount code BGMAD for 10% off your Primally Pure order every time you make a purchase, not just the first time!
 
Boy Girl Mom and Dad uses affiliate links. By clicking on certain hyperlinks and/or buying a product, you may help us make a small commission off your purchase. It's links like this that help keep us going. Thank you for your support!
 
Kami Blease: https://www.instagram.com/kamiblease
Kayla J.W. Marnach:
https://www.kaylajwmarnach.com/
The Can Do Kids Series:
My Body’s Mine: A Book on Boundaries and Sexual Abuse Prevention: https://bit.ly/3TBmBnt
Mi Cuerpo Es Mío: Un Libro sobre Límites Personales del Cuerpo y Prevención de Abuso Sexual: https://bit.ly/4cx59sQ
I’ll Always Remember: A Book on Grief and Loss: https://bit.ly/3Tq19BK
I Can Do That: A Book on Self-Regulation: https://bit.ly/3IUh2eK
My Actions Matter: A Book on Life Values: https://bit.ly/3xdLNsD
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 2: Please Don’t Say That To My Children: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5m1WSKGTR0auaBOhTAG3qL
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Don’t Hug Doug by Carrie Finison: https://bit.ly/3SG510T
Before the age of 7, the brain doesn’t have the ability to reason:  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL2QL3Bn/
Daniel Siegel: https://bit.ly/4a8lL8N
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
The Help by Kathryn Stockett: https://bit.ly/3TzueuH
How to talk to your kids about their bodies (don’t): https://www.instagram.com/p/C2NEl4kuI6u/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ%3D%3D
Sleepover monsters don’t look like monsters: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLYSL74v/
Engine Plates for regulating kids’ emotions:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo4Ec1V8yoM&ab_channel=4KIDSUS
Emotions Posters for Kids: https://bit.ly/4a4AIIS
Quiet on the Set documentary: https://www.vudu.com/content/browse/details/Quiet-on-Set-The-Dark-Side-of-Kids-TV-Too-Close-to-the-Sun/2994229?cmp=OrganicSearch~Vudu~GoogleWatch
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by: Lindsay C. Gibson: https://bit.ly/3uV6uc7
Good Moms have Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman: https://bit.ly/49h6bGp
Birds and Bees Course: https://bit.ly/3pDR9to
Teach kids their anatomically correct body parts: https://www.tiktok.com/@nashvillepodcastnetwork/video/7339203374354533674?_r=1&_t=8kgJ9RRqVkR
PANTS rule 4 kids: https://www.instagram.com/p/CywvWBaIkRl/
Killer Bee Tactical: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34
Killer Bee Tactical Kid Phone Work arounds: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34/video/7241953274612501802
Bark Phone: https://www.bark.us/learn/the-bark-phone/
Bark Phone Monitoring App: https://www.bark.us/?
Why Gender Matters, Second Edition by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3pmBH54
Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/46WR2tY
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://amzn.to/3OckOUL
The Party Freeze Dance song: https://open.spotify.com/track/5n5IxMcG2oV8IOzklsW6Vd
Triggering things you may be saying around food: https://www.instagram.com/p/C4t2JNwAvyA/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
I Love My Body by Mother Moon: https://bit.ly/493lUJa
There’s a Yeti in my Tummy by Meredith Rusu: https://bit.ly/4ctgyKj
What do you say when someone says they need to earn their brunch: https://www.threads.net/@medafounder/post/C4tjkKQACSt/?xmt=AQGzQFoRhXtnkDkj9zr0AQUVsPeHmW5fSU2GmV7QBu_mIg
If they can’t fix something in a 10 second window, no need to point it out: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLYBnQRB/
Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture by Virginia Sol Smith : https://bit.ly/4abLKMG
More than a Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite : https://bit.ly/495oPRG
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Talor: https://bit.ly/3TRIznp
Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon: https://bit.ly/49jrQy4
Do you Talk to your kids about Stranger Danger?: https://www.instagram.com/p/C5CgBbJgFob/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ%3D%3D
Decoding Boys by Cara Natterson, M.D.: https://amzn.to/3Ici0TY
Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys: https://bit.ly/3vqd0rA
 
00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:37 - Prvious Episodes Maintenance
00:12:05 - When Did We Get Cell Phones?
00:22:12 - Tips For Sexual Abuse Prevention
00:31:17 - How Is Body Positivity Different From Body Neutrality?
00:39:53 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:40:14 - How Do We Frame Fitness & Movement For Our Kids?
00:42:18 - How To Handle A Child Not Finishing Their Food?
00:52:45 - How would you suggest Adults 'Edit' What They Think About Themselves for Kids?
01:01:41 - What About When People Say They Need To Earn Their Food?
01:05:58 - Tips For Good Kid Body Image
01:07:12 - Kid Affirmations
01:15:09 - Closing

37 | Your Kids and Their Bodies: Body Safety and Body Image Part 1

Part one of a conversation about body knowledge regarding our children in both the mental and physical space. Special guests author Kayla J.W. Marnach and body neutral personal trainer + coach and entrepreneur Kami Blease discuss SA prevention, body positivity + neutrality, resisting societal norms like diet culture, food consumption, exercise, and more. Tune in to see how you can retrain your (adult) brain and unlearn body negativity and trauma, so you can try to not only limit your child's exposure to them, but build a foundation that can withstand it. 
 
Use discount code BGMAD for 10% off your Primally Pure order every time you make a purchase, not just the first time!
 
Boy Girl Mom and Dad uses affiliate links. By clicking on certain hyperlinks and/or buying a product, you may help us make a small commission off your purchase. It's links like this that help keep us going. Thank you for your support!
 
Kami Blease: https://www.instagram.com/kamiblease
Kayla J.W. Marnach:
https://www.kaylajwmarnach.com/
The Can Do Kids Series:
My Body’s Mine: A Book on Boundaries and Sexual Abuse Prevention: https://bit.ly/3TBmBnt
Mi Cuerpo Es Mío: Un Libro sobre Límites Personales del Cuerpo y Prevención de Abuso Sexual: https://bit.ly/4cx59sQ
I’ll Always Remember: A Book on Grief and Loss: https://bit.ly/3Tq19BK
I Can Do That: A Book on Self-Regulation: https://bit.ly/3IUh2eK
My Actions Matter: A Book on Life Values: https://bit.ly/3xdLNsD
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 2: Please Don’t Say That To My Children: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5m1WSKGTR0auaBOhTAG3qL
Boy Girl Mom and Dad Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think it Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Don’t Hug Doug by Carrie Finison: https://bit.ly/3SG510T
Before the age of 7, the brain doesn’t have the ability to reason:  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL2QL3Bn/
Daniel Siegel: https://bit.ly/4a8lL8N
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
The Help by Kathryn Stockett: https://bit.ly/3TzueuH
How to talk to your kids about their bodies (don’t): https://www.instagram.com/p/C2NEl4kuI6u/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ%3D%3D
Sleepover monsters don’t look like monsters: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLYSL74v/
Engine Plates for regulating kids’ emotions:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo4Ec1V8yoM&ab_channel=4KIDSUS
Emotions Posters for Kids: https://bit.ly/4a4AIIS
Quiet on the Set documentary: https://www.vudu.com/content/browse/details/Quiet-on-Set-The-Dark-Side-of-Kids-TV-Too-Close-to-the-Sun/2994229?cmp=OrganicSearch~Vudu~GoogleWatch
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by: Lindsay C. Gibson: https://bit.ly/3uV6uc7
Good Moms have Scary Thoughts by Karen Kleiman: https://bit.ly/49h6bGp
Birds and Bees Course: https://bit.ly/3pDR9to
Teach kids their anatomically correct body parts: https://www.tiktok.com/@nashvillepodcastnetwork/video/7339203374354533674?_r=1&_t=8kgJ9RRqVkR
PANTS rule 4 kids: https://www.instagram.com/p/CywvWBaIkRl/
Killer Bee Tactical: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34
Killer Bee Tactical Kid Phone Work arounds: https://www.tiktok.com/@purepower34/video/7241953274612501802
Bark Phone: https://www.bark.us/learn/the-bark-phone/
Bark Phone Monitoring App: https://www.bark.us/?
Why Gender Matters, Second Edition by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3pmBH54
Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/46WR2tY
Decoding Boys by Cara Natterson, M.D.: https://amzn.to/3Ici0TY
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://amzn.to/3OckOUL
 
00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:51 - Guest Introductions
00:03:38 - Past Episodes Maintenance
00:26:23 - What Does Body Positivity Mean To You?
00:34:53 - Commercial
00:39:45 - Body Safety
00:45:44 - Would You Allow Your Kids To Have Sleepovers Today?
01:04:36 - Tips To Protect Your Kids Online
01:12:40 - Closing Part 1

36 | Travel To Europe With Toddlers?!

Would we take our twin toddlers to Europe with us again? Chatting our overall experience with taking our almost 2 year old twins to London and Paris with us for the first time, along with the overall societal and social feel of bringing (small) children to Europe. Also chatting through travel agents, hotels vs airbnbs, packing, tips, and more!
 
If you want to get straight to the episode and skip our banter start around 15:00 minutes.
 
Use discount code BGMAD for 10% off your Primally Pure order every time you make a purchase, not just the first time!
 
Boy Girl Mom and Dad uses affiliate links. By clicking on certain hyperlinks and/or buying a product, you may help us make a small commission off your purchase. It's links like this that help keep us going. Thank you for your support!
 
Episode 35: Potty Training Twins: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4htHGyQSBWKxeusiwgm6LD
Hearth Display: https://hearthdisplay.com/products/hearth-display?sca_ref=4579188.UTjy3f8JIW
Primally Pure Hand Soap:  https://link.primallypure.com/ellemulenos9p8
Nighttime Potty Training: https://www.twiniversity.com/night-potty-training/
The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff LPC-MHSP: https://amzn.to/47AGdx4
This is the first generation to see actual footage of where their childhood trauma began https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLJMnBqp/
Hunt Gather Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff: https://amzn.to/3o4KpV9
Meg Smith Travel: https://www.megsmithtravel.com/
London Travel Guide with Twin Toddlers: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/blogfeed/travel-guide-london-with-twin-toddlers
Paris LMents of Style Blog Post: TBD
Dishoom: https://www.dishoom.com/
Fortnum and Mason Afternoon Tea: https://www.fortnumandmason.com/afternoon-tea
The Kensington Hotel: https://www.doylecollection.com/hotels/the-kensington-hotel?
Plum Guide: https://www.plumguide.com/
London Kids Book: https://bit.ly/49VM0ir
Paris Kids Book: https://bit.ly/49VLReT
@ellemulenos IG post about getting passports and IDs: XXX
It Takes Two: A special book for twins by Lauren Mulenos: https://www.amazon.com/Takes-Two-Special-Book-Twins/dp/B0CT7GZW7T
My sister was thrown up on during her flight: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzROlRRrmE0/
Toddler toys my twins liked better than ipads: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CyRijk8PH9b/
What I wore on the long flight: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxR8Xylu8OX/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
MZ Wallace Medium Metro Tote: https://bit.ly/468W715
MZ Wallace Metro Sling Belt Bag: https://bit.ly/3VkveVJ
 
Lululemon 2L Belt Bag: https://bit.ly/3UwZA71
Dagne Dover Large Indie Backpack Diaper Bag: https://bit.ly/425ulA6
Favorite Diapers in London: 
Favorite Snacks in London:
Shoe Rack for Packing:https://bit.ly/49LqwVz
Air Tag Pin: https://bit.ly/4cgnASy
Portable Battery:
Outlet Adapters:
$15 off Discount LinkZoe Stroller: https://glnk.io/zlzjm/ellemulenos
Bumbleride IndieTwin Review: https://www.lmentsofstyle.com/blogfeed/favorite-double-jogging-stroller-for-my-twins-bumbleride-indie-twin
Baby Carrier
Tush baby
EASTER BOOKS:
Baby’s First Easter: https://bit.ly/3wWHXUN
Easter is Coming: https://bit.ly/49W2YgJ
God Gave us Easter: https://bit.ly/3IGyGme
Berenstein Bears Easter Blessings: https://bit.ly/48Wk4tF
God Bless our Easter: https://bit.ly/3VjKdzg
Fancy Nancy and the Missing Easter Bunny: https://bit.ly/3ve2Xpg
Construction Site Spring Delight: https://bit.ly/3TEsfXd
Amelia Bedlia Hops to it: https://bit.ly/3OQa5iu
Honeybunny Funny Funny: https://bit.ly/48qvDZZ
Pinkalicious easter: https://bit.ly/42OvNcd
Where do Diggers Hunt for Easter eggs? https://bit.ly/49GyHSF
Little Blue Truck Springtime: https://bit.ly/3wiQEbo
 
00:00:34 - Intro
00:01:15 - Previous Episodes Maintenance
00:12:28 - Tiff
00:15:17 - Would We Take The Trip Again?
00:30:21 - How Did We Do It?
00:47:33 - Commercial - Primally Pure
00:48:16 - What / How To Pack
01:16:47 - Do It, Bring Your Kids!
01:18:40 - Ask BGMAD
01:19:46 - Closing

35 | Potty Training Twins

There’s no “manual” like experience for parenting, especially when it comes to twins and potty training. Today on Boy Girl Mom & Dad, we chat through the method or lack thereof we used to potty train our 2 year old (27 month old) fraternal twins, plus share tips and tricks for toilet training your twins, but singletons too.
 
The topic discussion starts around 19:00 minutes.
 
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Episode 34: Gentle Parenting Isn’t What You Think It Is: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2gd22UcFFqVZGP8FXdDoDr
Baby Mama Movie: https://bit.ly/3TndeIX
Episode 33: Your Mom Guilt Is Showing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/55xxkacQCi2eZnuR6bqVQI
Episode 32: How I Wrote a (Kids) Book: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6msLxhvLmdQdCSzKQzySup?si=Hz_OVSgXRqOVKlNponNNoQ
Skinny Pantry Utility Storage Cabinet: https://bit.ly/3Izp5xC
Emily Oster Potty Training by Age Graph: https://www.instagram.com/p/C4GjPLVR2kt/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
Oh Crap Potty Training Method by Jamie Glowacki: https://bit.ly/3P5jPp3
Potty Training in 3 Days by Brandi Brucks: https://bit.ly/4c2iZ6o
The Pump Station: https://www.pumpstation.com/
Little Training Potties: https://bit.ly/3v8tXq9
Stool Attachment training seat Potty topper: https://bit.ly/3v4Y6GQ
(Adult) Squatty Potty: https://bit.ly/3T3teia
Step Stool for Potty: https://bit.ly/3V6gHwX
One Proud Toddler Seat Cover: https://bit.ly/3V3B9yo
POTTY BOOKS:
Bye-Bye Diapers w/ Little Miss Piggy Muppet Babies: https://bit.ly/3wL9Qiw
The Bitty Twins Use the Potty by Jennifer Hirsch: https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/the-bitty-twins-use-the-potty_jennifer-hirsch/1342022/item/3170515/
American Girl Brand Bitty Baby “Let’s Go Potty” Set with “Potty Time” Book: https://bit.ly/3V4UteT
Daniel Tiger’s Potty Time Book: https://bit.ly/3IoFMvr
Peppa Pig Let’s Go Potty Book: https://bit.ly/3TllhGm
Sesame Street P is for Potty Book: https://bit.ly/3uWYibi
Everyone Poops by Taro Gomi: https://bit.ly/43446fC
It Takes Two: A special book for twins by Lauren Mulenos: https://www.amazon.com/Takes-Two-Special-Book-Twins/dp/B0CT7GZW7T
Gap Organic Cotton Toddler Underwear: https://bit.ly/48GJKKA
Burt’s Bees Baby  Organic Cotton Toddler Underwear: https://bit.ly/3TnEN4U
Dyper Diapers and Pull-ups: https://bit.ly/3V0DCK4
Dog Poop Bags: https://bit.ly/3InFeWI
Llama Naturals Vitamins: Use code ELLEMULENOS for 20% off: https://www.llamanaturals.com/pages/_go_?discount=ELLEMULENOS&ref=12877%3A654408&utm_campaign=Lauren%20Mulenos&utm_medium=Lauren%20Mulenos&utm_source=affiliate-654408
Aluminum Hand Soap Canister: https://bit.ly/3wHMdau
Step Stool for Washing Hands: https://bit.ly/48Hx0TS
 
00:00:41 - Intro
00:03:36 - Previous Episode Maintenance
00:08:53 - Tiff
00:14:00 - Potty Training
00:19:30 - 3 Sections
00:19:38 - The Tools We Used
00:34:40 - Our Timeline
00:41:14 - Our Tips
00:53:24 - Commercial - Primally Pure
01:08:37 - Pros and Cons
01:17:46 - Ask BGMAD
01:20:14 - Closing

34 | Gentle Parenting Isn't What You Think It Is

Today Boy Girl Mom & Dad chats with Emma Porter, LPC on what gentle parenting is and isn’t. Tune in for real-life, applicable examples of parenting gently and why you should consider this form of intentional, authoritative parenting.
 
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Emma Porter: @InCaseYouWantToGrowToday https://www.instagram.com/incaseyouwanttogrowtoday/
Email Emma at InCaseYouWantToGrowToday@gmail.com
The Princess Bride Clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9MS2y2YU_o
Types of Parenting Styles:  https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045
The Gentle Parenting Book by Sarah Ockwell-Smith: https://bit.ly/49K4SR4
Episode 31 What’s My Child’s Love Language: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7404QCGWWsewXSqpKPJLRY
Episode 10 Do Mom Friends Exist IRL: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ucrXHj0JY1NrEPip3biTo
Become a More Authoritative Parent: https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-become-a-more-authoritative-parent-4136329
3 Styles of Authoritative Parenting: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8go7UTx/
What do doctors say about Gentle Parenting: https://healthnews.com/family-health/family-relations/gentle-parenting-trend-what-do-psychologists-say/
Angelica Shiels on attunement: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8pA96JA/
 @highimpactparenting https://www.facebook.com/reel/897281678705689?fs=e&mibextid=0NULKw&fs=e&s=TIeQ9V
 
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by: Lindsay C. Gibson: https://bit.ly/3uV6uc7
@nurteredfirst firm and loving boundaries you can use your hands to do this- https://www.instagram.com/p/C2oJa1bAy4U/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
 @the_indomitable_blackman on gentle parenting, say what you SHOULD be doing, not what you shouldn’t be doing. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8gcuHFy/
@confessions and confetti - we do not yell in this household, I need you to try again
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0QE6Q_N8G-/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
Tell you the feeling / don’t have to fix it — Dr. Aliza Pressman https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2dQYkQPRC8/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ== 
Boundaries with Dr. Siggi https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2iDKUovjUc/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
It's Not About the Nail video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg&ab_channel=JasonHeadley 
Handling multiple melt downs @biglittlefeelings: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2-J1JkL82l/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
Emma Porter on Circle of Security: https://www.instagram.com/p/CkndHyAvRB2/
Slumberkins Hammerhead Shark: https://bit.ly/42ysFRu
Slumberkins Alpaca: https://bit.ly/49l9rB8
Lunya saved my sister’s life: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzROlRRrmE0/
Boy Mom Culture vs Girl Mom Culture: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4f0WKo844LNty2I5paR4mq
Fake Doctors Real Friends Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7yBHJUyU3Z8umSnOu1nz5r
Still Face Experiment: https://www.gottman.com/blog/research-still-face-experiment/
“Mental torture vs physical torture” sentence TikTok
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8gvDbos/
Spanking - https://www.instagram.com/p/C3YjCVvg3O1/?igsh=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==
The Collapse of Parenting by Leonard Sax, MD, PhD: https://amzn.to/3OHYG4W
Dr. Becky Kennedy's Book Good Inside: https://amzn.to/3omB4Yf
5 Principles of Parenting by Dr. Aliza Pressman : https://bit.ly/3UGQN2x
The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff LPC-MHSP: https://amzn.to/47AGdx4
Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE: https://amzn.to/3tToLWz
Expecting Better by Emily Oster: https://amzn.to/3MwbYAm
Cribsheet by Emily Oster: https://amzn.to/3KpKzNI 
The Family Firm by Emily Oster: https://amzn.to/3KLwV96
It Didn’t Start with You by Mark Wolynn: https://bit.ly/3UXx2E2
The Whole Brained Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson: https://bit.ly/3wuMtJV
No Drama Discipline by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson: https://bit.ly/3TcWcgH
 
00:00:54 - Intro
00:02:20 - Ep 33 Maintenance
00:10:23 - Why this topic?
00:11:34 - The Four Types of Parenting
00:13:31 - What is Gentle Parenting?
00:21:44 - Only 30% of the time?!
00:35:11 - It's Never Too Late to Fix It
00:37:50 - Be Curious
00:43:08 - Be the Strong Emotional Parent
00:49:22 - Commercial - Lunya
00:50:57 - Real life Examples of Gentle Parenting
00:58:24 - Boundaries are NOT Questions
01:11:32 - Circle of Security
01:24:25 - Gentle or Permissive Discipline
01:44:10 - Conclusion